#19 Tip for today

"We don't have enough money for that" or "I don't have time to do XYZ with you" are probably the hardest things to say to your loved one. In fact, dealing with a sense of 'lack' is across the board, one of the most powerful and wide-ranging challenges that faced my client during 2022. Today's daily tips, on the 19th day of the 23 tips to start 23 better series, focus on combating or reframing this:

"I don't have enough..."

• money
• time
• energy
• love

...in my life

If you grew up, as I did, in a household where you learned that you have to work hard to pay the bills/mortgage/rent, this one runs deep. Not only do we believe it's inherently hard to make a comfortable living, but that striving to achieve something we don't have 'enough of' is often a way of life. My parents were born just after the war in Italy, so it's not surprising they felt that way.

The struggle becomes very real if your circumstances change, you may lose one income through redundancy, or having a child. Or you become a single income household, or move country and have to start fresh like I did back a few times (2000, 2012 and 2021). This sense of perceived lack pushes us hard to do more, be more, achieve more, earn more. It can make us live in the crazy busy where there's never enough money or time.

Clearly, not everyone is short of money, but most of us experience a lack of time, energy, or love on a weekly, if not daily, basis.

Reframing the way we think about what we have is really helpful. There is actually always enough of what we need. We live in an abundant universe. Sometime we need to ask for help, and as a proud person, I know how hard that can be.

Then there's karma - you get back what you give out. So if you feel a sense of lack, give more to charity - money or volunteer your time. If you feel a lack of time, give time to help someone else, and you'll get more time or something else that makes life easier back.

For every five full priced clients, I give massively discounted hypnotherapy and coaching sessions to one financially disadvantaged client. It helps me feel that I'm contributing tangibly to the betterment of society.

Giving a small amount can make a big difference, but it also helps you receive more. 

So if you lack love, be more loving. Maybe your loved ones will respond with more love and connection towards you. If you lack energy, do more exercise, which will then give you more energy.

If you've enjoyed today's tip, head over to my blog and check out the tips so far. Yesterday we covered not walking into 2023 with 2022's baggage. There are tips on growing your patience, self-confidence and being more organised, amongst others.

If you're struggling with a sense of lack, in your time, energy, love or money, and it's a repeated pattern, reach out. You can book in for a free discovery call here.